"We can not solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
The Ego Mind
Family Systems Theory
Registered Professional Counsellor
Diploma (3yrs.) in Transpersonal Psychotherapy and Counselling (2006)
BA in Applied Psychology (2006)
Conscious Movement Event Producer
Our collective dilemma...
To some degree we have all been asked to adapt to a dysfunctional system; a way of being or doing things that goes against our better judgment, our intuition or our innate values. That request may come from our family, culture, government, religion, relationship or job. What are our choices when such big systems and authoritative figures (teachers, priests, doctors, politicians, parents, etc.) require us to bend (or break) to meet their reality? Do we just survive, adapt, and then get used to living in a dysfunctional system? Is it our ‘normal’ now? How does that feel?
What has it done to our inner knowing; that part of us that knew all along that something was 'off', that part of us that “doesn’t buy it” and never did. Do we silence it with rationalization and reason? Do we justify the discrepancy between our values and our choices, between our heart and our head, between our personal truth and someone else’s? How do we manage that inner conflict and the accompanying feelings of anxiety, resentment, sadness, guilt, shame, powerlessness and doubt? There may come a time when we can no longer manage that anxiety; the cost of normalizing the abnormal. To arrive at this point – albeit painful – is good news. I firmly believe that becoming symptomatic in a dysfunctional system is a sign of health, not illness.
What if our own senses, feelings and thoughts have been trying to alert us to the fact that we have been trained away from our inner knowing, and that the pain of being out of alignment (not living a life based on our personal values) and being out of integrity (not speaking our personal truth) is no longer an option? Is this our call to greater awareness, alignment and truth, so that we can heal and serve a greater purpose in this life?
My work is to help people reconnect with their authentic selves; their inner truth, values, senses, feelings, limits, priorities and boundaries. To help them attune to their inner selves, connect with what is true and real for them, and help them find their voice so that they can communicate more effectively and connect more authentically with themselves, others and the world.